Response to Neo

Dear Naresh(Neo),

Thank you very much for your fabulous opinions. This is what I am really expecting from my friends.

Nothing in this world can be generalised and it varies from person to person. Whatever I am writing you take it as my opinion in this moment. I am not judging anyone and am not telling anything to do. Just take my opinions as a point of view, love them or criticize them, but think about them.

1."Just a one sided argument without any details. "

I personally feel arguments are a waste of time. When you start arguing, you start protecting your point of views which I dont want to do.

2."A man is bound to be attracted by women and vice-versa. This trait is already a given in human. "

If you add personality, character, behaviour, belief etc along with looks for our OUTWARD IMPRESSION, yes this is what Iam telling you is your strength. Use your strength to attract the mate by yourself.
What I am telling is not to give up your strength by making your parents or some other people responsible for what you have to do. You can do it for yourselves by your own strength.
My logic is "giving away strength is weakness".

3."So the weakness if it exists is not due to the lack of traits in male but due to the Outward-impression"

If people lack the traits( whatever you've said) they will become Gays. So when you accept that you dont have the outward-impression and accepting the strength of others for your journey in life is nothing but weakness. Every individual in this world will have their own strength in Outward-impression, find it, use it but never give it up.
So, this is the premise of my opinion.

4."But you cannot generalize the same. "

Yes, I totally accept.

5."I can only imagine now your views about marriage "

Please dont do that. They change everyday. Not only on marriage but on everything.

6."Why did you call that statement a "fact"? "

I absolutely miscommunicated by putting a word fact. Yes I do accept that it is wrong to quote 'fact'.

7."If you do whatever you want to do with your full heart and soul, then you will attain success"

This is the logic you have given yourself. I will show you hundreds and thousands of people who do whatever they want to do with their full heart and soul and never attained success.
"Doing what you want to do is success" is a continuous process. If you leave it in middle giving reasons, it is a failure. Leaving it in middle and still doing what you think you want to do then is what is success for me.
For eg: If you want to become a Doctor, you start studying for that. In the process, if someday you strongly believe you dont want to become a doctor but an actor. If you start trying for your new wish, you are still successful for me.
When you give reasons that studying doctor is difficult etc etc, then you are a failure.

Success for me is what you want to do and not forcing yourself for achieving something because of the logic you have given yourself.

The outcome is nowhere in your hands is what the poem says. I totally respect you from your words that you needn't take it for granted. I appreciate it. This is what Buddha says: ' You needn't believe anything just because somebody said it. You shouldn't believe untill you see it, hear it , feel it etc,. for yourself'

8."may be you will retire getting nothing.."

What if you retire getting nothing as long as you are happy for what you are and what you've been.

Finally, I am still in the process of understanding all these. That is the reason I started this blog. I will post so many topics in this process. your comments mean a lot to me.

Thank you veryyyyy muccccchhhhhhhhhh..........

Pradeep Varma