The very trait a person whether it is male or female should possess is 'The strength to attract the opposite sex to mate'.
When you are getting ready for an arranged marriage, you are actually giving away your strength of attracting opposite sex by yourself which becomes a weakness in reality. You are covering your weakness with the strength of your Parents or family fame or some other thing for attracting a marriage and not a mere mate.
By admitting for arranged marriage, you are accepting your weakness.
If you cannot attract a possible mate whom you like for yourself and ready to accept the weakness then definitely you can use the most mythical weapon called Arranged Marriage.
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Hey Pradeep,
ReplyDeleteNice thought. But arranged marriage is not a sign of weakness all the time. Its not like we are covering the weakness with strength of family good will for attracting marriage. We are doing it for finding out a lifemate (not a mere mate) who will bound to you for eternity and always in your care.
If you dont accept this truth, think about how many love marriages are successful over arranged marriages.???????????
Yeah u got it.The so called mythical weapon will help you to lead a successful and happier life with your lifemate.
Thanks
Kiran
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Bava where did you get this thought about arranged marriage? This "weakness" angle to arranged marriage is wonderful. I cannot comment on this,you seem to have pondered over this matter for long. certainly its an interesting way to discuss about marriage by looking at the choice of marriage itself from the point of ones ability to attract. you preach & I will listen. Please draw a conclusion soon hehe :D
ReplyDeletebava why this scary pic at top?!
ReplyDeletePradeep!..dude...wen did u start writing....?!!...:)))
ReplyDeleteOh..so arranged marriage is a sign of "weakness" huh..?!
chaala bagundi ama...too much concept...infact keka...lol...lol...
I really dont know abt that dude...but it sure sounds fancy n nice....
It'll better if u write a post on the topic 'Marriage' itself...coz...lets get to hear wots ur concept abt marriage first...den probably we can talk abt love or arranged...lol...!!!!
Dear Mohinder
ReplyDeleteI just thought it looks good and confusing.
There is no logic behind that.
Regards
Pradeep Varma
I thought the whole idea about this blog is to ENLIGHTEN yourself... talking about something without any logic isn't helping that in any way. Especially when u urself know that there's no logic behind ur thought process.
ReplyDeleteConfusing who? :)
ReplyDeleteI agree with u bro. Stick to your word. I am really working on it. Tryin to attract as many as i can and one day i'l find the best gal outta them.
ReplyDeleteI can read 2 fallacies here - Either you don't have a logic for this post (which you have already admitted) or you don't approve arranged marriage.
ReplyDeleteJust a one sided argument without any details.
2 qns which you can answer..
1. "Unlike poles attract" is the basic law of nature. A man is bound to be attracted by women and vice-versa. This trait is already a given in human. But it is the strength of magnetic field in each individual that differs which may be due to various reasons looks,personality,behavior etc .. Lets call it Outward-impression.
So the weakness if it exists is not due to the lack of traits in male but due to the Outward-impression. Your basic premise for the argument seemed wrong.
2. Dude, in arranged marriages don't you think people give a go-ahead(in most of the cases) ONLY when the Outward-impression is good. Yes its true that family,status etc comes into play and in some cases they overtake the likings of the individuals involved. May be in such a case i would agree with your "Weak(ness)" argument. But you cannot generalize the same.
My comment may be very direct but it had to be coz i didn't see any rationale behind your logic (if it exists).
I can only imagine now your views about marriage ;)
Keep writing
Neo
Dude..nice to see a work from you after a long time.But, i am completely against to this...
ReplyDeletewhy do you think its weakness?????? this infact surprised me.
What if i have attracted a no. other gender and still prefer arranged marraige???
What if the oppo. gender is mad of my traits but i still believe inmy customs??????//
why parents??? aren't there arrange marraiges without them???
Is the whole marraige concept is around strength weakness and Attraction and NOT LOVE.......WEIRD
Why made you to call arranged marriage a mythical weapon???? Then what should we call love marraige " A disguised Missile"
Please do revert ......see u
urs
Adi
Dear Ven
ReplyDeleteThe very reason i wrote this article is to surprise people. So i am super successful now.
I just wrote this article to put forward a different point of view for all our age group people who are ready to marry.
The problem is, we watch a lot of movies and write dialogues like "Is the whole marraige concept is around strength weakness and Attraction and NOT LOVE.......WEIRD".
Dont take this as an offence, but what love do one have before marriage when it is arranged.
The problem is 'love is a feeling and the perception vary from person to person'
I dont have any specific opinion on the so called Love Marriage. when I do have, ill write a blog on that.
Do you know the best place to search answers for your questions???????
It is within you. You and only you can answer them and people like me can give a point of view.
I really dont understand these 'What if...' questions in this matter.
Thank you very very much for your valuable comments. I expect the same from you everytime.
Regards
Pradeep Varma
Pradeep,
ReplyDeleteNot for every body the marriage is the means and end of life. Many persons do not give much significance to conjugal obligations as more than some routine like quenching the thirst or stisying hunger. These guys do not want to waste tme on thinking weather marriage is a wekaness or strength. They just allow the marriage to happen mechanically like so many routine things like reading Hindi in School or attending to Physical training in school.
This breed of people do not waste their time thinking about the institution of marriage. they allow things to happen in areas where they have no major intersts. They concentrate their strengths on what they want to achieve in life andwhere they want to take their lives.
This is not out of weakness but out of indifference to the whole process.
However, some of these people start loving the relation ship they are forced into and forget or reduce their efforts to their previous goals. As you already said goals will keep on changing some times even within minutes.
I assure this is a very minority of people who choose this path and most of the peopledo not want and confrontation in life and swim with tide. For them strength and weakness does not exist. Only awareness of a flow felt and will be very much worried if they are not moving with flow.
This can not be wrong either. These persons are doing what is expected of them by perceived peers.
I expect a person to pick a goal in the life but haing no goal is acceptable too. Once the goal is identified , our life long ambition is to refine the goal and keep moving towards it.
whether they want NIRVANA, or the riches or simply all the sensual pleasures does not matter to them.
But, one big question needs to be answered before any of these things start. Does being part of SOciety means any thing? If yes these goals will have to be defined within the boundaries created by society..
Any way I am now retired and can happily blog to my hearts contents
chitti Baaji